25 November 2008

Censorship for teenagers

Do you really think a young person can be 17 years and 364 days, living in your censored and sanitised world, and then become an adult the following day? Do you really believe that prohibition can prevent a teenage boys interest pornography?

The answer lies in the exact opposite of what you want to do. Dont disempower and guilt-trip your teenage children, but allow them to explore their sexuality. Make sure they have the information to understand pornography; they will never understand the role of pornography unless they have seen and experienced it.

Most adult people recognise something which opponents of pornography want to deny, namely that nobody can control the content of his or her sexual fantasies. To take one example: a person may be excited by watching humiliation and corporal punishment, but would never contemplate realising that fantasy. That is how it is for a well-balanced adult, but that distinction has to be learnt in the teenage years.

Those who try to suppress their sexual fantasies will never succeed and will never understand the proper distinction between a fantasy wish and a wish that he or she wants to realise. Such people are the dangerous ones.

Pornography, despite its ugliness and dangers, is not just a source of enjoyment for many, but also a tool for understanding oneself.

Indeed

This article errs in blaming viewing pornography rather than an inability on the part of a few to control the distinction between fantasy and committing serious crime.

Most people recognise something, which opponents of pornography want to deny, namely that nobody can control the content of his or her sexual fantasies. A large number of ‘healthy’ people, quite beyond their will, are excited by watching violence, humiliation and forced sex, but on account of their normal developed moral sense would never contemplate realising any such fantasies.

Those who hopelessly try to suppress their sexual fantasies and shun the imagery they crave will never succeed in understanding themselves and will never comprehend the proper distinction between a fantasy wish and a wish that he or she wants to realise.

Only by openness with regard to sexual fantasy can we even start to address the problem which afflicts a tiny minority of people who can’t control what they do. Pornography is not just a source of enjoyment, but also is a means of self-understanding.

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