9 June 2011
Sex: behaviour and fantasy
The distinction between sexual deeds and sexual fantasy needs to be maintained
Yes, actual sexual behaviour and sexual fantasy are two distinct things; and the vast majority of people know that. For the most part, sexual behaviour is under the control of the individual; sexual fantasy never is.
The psychopath and the puritan both make the same mistake of conflating the two. The psychopath allows his fantasies to govern his behaviour; while the puritan tries to force his/her fantasies (and often those of other people though censorship) to conform to acceptable behaviour.
A sensible social policy would not be to deny and punish fantasy when it is expressed, but to stress the difference between it and acceptable behaviour.